Determine what you and your husband are really fighting about
Figure out the issues behind all the bickering so you can break the cycle and get back to enjoying your life together.
Anger:
Feeling overworked or overlooked can make you mad. Since
your partner is always nearby, it's easy to take things out on him.
Maybe you're blaming him for what's wrong (see "Blame"), or maybe
you're just blowing off steam in his direction. Either way, it's
not a fun or loving atmosphere for anyone.
Distance:
If you and your husband spend too much time apart, emotional
distance will soon follow, and companionship and romance will also
slip away before long. The same goes for being alone together, when
you're both in the family room, but he's reading and you're
knitting. Couples need fun common interests beyond their kids.
Unspoken hurts:
It may be obvious to you that your husband is being hurtful,
but he may be oblivious, which means he's likely to keep up the
problematic behavior. If you don't say something right away,
resentment will build and you'll feel misunderstood and ignored.
Blame:
It's easy -- natural, even -- to blame your husband for
marital problems. But to move forward, calmly get to the bottom of
things -- maybe you're the one who needs to change.
Source: Debra Mandel, PhD, psychologist